Description: Readers share stories about discrimination they’ve experienced as lesbians.
My experiences of everyday lesbophobia are :
- Being told by boys and men that they can “fix” me
- Having a friend sever all contact with me after I came out because she felt that being a lesbian was a “joke.”
- Being constantly asked which guy I would go straight for, and who I would choose if I had to sleep with a man.
- My friend’s friend badgering my friend for my number (after he found out I was a lesbian) because he felt that he could and would “turn me.”
- My boss interrupting me talking with co-workers about women dating other women to say it was “sordid.”
- My mum telling me that the right man is out there for me.
- Being asked “can I watch” by males and being told that it’s a turn on that I am gay.
- Men not respecting that I am a lesbian and intimidating me and not leaving me alone.
- Being called a queer and a lezzer in school.
- Hearing feminist women distance themselves from lesbians by saying “feminism is not about being a hairy lesbian” and other ignorant comments.
-Anonymous, 17, UK.
My girlfriend and I have been through a lot of lesbophobia. The worst thing we’ve been through was when we were at the club, newly in love, a bit tipsy, and kissing each other on the dance floor. Suddenly, someone asked us to stop, and when we looked around us, there were a lot of people photographing and laughing at us. A bit ashamed, we move away and sat down. That is when a guy got up and smashed our heads together (pretty hard). People around us were still laughing. I just took her hand and we ran home as fast as we could, scared and very ashamed.
– Maja, 19, Sweden