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After reading this I’m like…. BRB gotta go learn everything about collard greens and find a way to love salmon and then secure a loan cos that perfect date aint gonna pay for itself!

Also I hope that female duet comes together because I would love to hear it!

Thank you for this review, Bit! This shades in some of what’s missing between the translation from book to film, nicely. I liked the film, even though I had moments where the power imbalance between them/the semi-quasi-mother-daughter thing creeped me. Fortunately it wasn’t completely that dynamic, there was much more to them than that, but those moments did unsettle me. My favorite thing about how polarizing the film was in my circle has been getting to see things from my friends’ unexpected perspectives. I had such a different take than some of my friends but I’ve appreciated all the values behind our points of disagreement/divergence. It’s been nice just to have something lesbian to discuss. And it’s so awesome to have this site as a place to do that, too!

I knew Dior when we we’re kids. I’ve always had a mad crush on her. She’s always been beautiful to me. She’s the reason I’m so open about who I am.

Oh my god! I just teared up so hard.

reading old diaries has also been really helpful to me – “re-visioning” I think it’s called.

I loved Portia de Rossi’s Unbearable Lightness. I enjoyed it much more than Wasted. Hornbacher’s work is more triggering to me and hits on the sorts of things that people fully committed to recovery shouldn’t be doing. The way she wrote about it was an issue for me. (fellow eating disorder memoir reader here obviously haha. Unbearable Lightness was definitely more relateable as a lesbian. Did you enjoy it more than Wasted?)

Really insightful review!

I relate to being completely surprised that Portia de Rossi of all people felt about her relation to (traditional) feminity and the butch/femme stuff. I’m glad to hear that someone else was interested in that.

If you do read more lesbian memoirs I’m totally excited about reading your reviews on here! I would love to end up on a lesbian memoir kick too.

Yes I am a lesbian nothing queer about me I’m also a dyke that is what I came out too and I was proud. At times i have been fed up with society’s crap but that’s cos they think they have my number and most don’t .

Two days ago another lesbian told me I was ‘old-fashioned’ because I said I found the word ‘queer’ so inclusive as to be meaningless.

Since I am an older woman, I read this to mean also that ‘lesbian’ is for the old butches, the dykes – not for the young and swinging LGBTQI crowd…

I’m a lesbian and a dyke. I will never be queer.

Thank you. I never say queer, I always say lesbian. It sounds much more powerful than queer. Great article.

We need to free the L

I just snagged tickets to see them in September! I haven’t seen them in a couple years either and I’m more than ready.

Thank you! I do so relate! Check out the group I started just for the reasons stated above! https://www.facebook.com/groups/315452538645114/

Note that gay men are never hassled for being gay. Indeed, gay men love to celebrate how repulsed they are by women, in the most misogynist and hateful ways possible. Sadly, many straight and even bisexual women join in the near universal hate-fest that is misogyny.

Gay men and straight men, I’ve found, differ only in how they express their misogyny. Straight men hate women, and they want to express their contempt sexually. Gay men hate women, and they DON’T want to use their contempt sexually. Instead, they express their contempt by expressing disgust towards women’s primary and secondary sex characteristics. It is not a coincidence that gay men run the fashion and beauty industry.

Meanwhile, gay bars are filled with gay men, straight women who endure their “teasing”, and a few opportunistic straight doods who not only prey on the much-abused het girl BFFs of gay boys, but also try to hit on those of us who’d sooner castrate them than let them buy us a drink.

Us? I think I just meant myself, at least in this town.

This is so wonderful, Tanibutt!

This is really adorable and I’m really looking forward to more. xoxo

That was so cuuuute! I don’t know what it is about lesbians and the wobble. I have so many memories of it.

This is really lovely. I love the soft slow-moving atmosphere of it and the colours you use. It feels like memories, like seeing into someone’s mind. I’m looking forward to more of these.

this is incredible! particularly the moment when (and the manner how) you came out to your parents. <3

yes, I also love this. i’m currently reading Katherine Forrest novels. <3

Thank you so much for this. I went to a very “queer-friendly” college and learning to embrace myself as a lesbian was a very isolating experience. I’m glad that I was still able to succeed and I now proudly call myself a lesbian. Lesbian is not a dirty word.

YIKES.

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This is so unbelievably cute.

This was so good!!! Just watched the first episode!

Thank you.

I agree with my whole heart. Why call it a Dyke March if it isn’t?

This is so wonderful it makes me cry :’) I love this series.

I so feel this and I needed to hear someone else saying it! Thanks. I was at Seattle Dyke March this year too and I live in the area. I was happy to see those signs! I’ve been wanting to connect with other local agitators of like minds, if you have time to message me that would be swell.

I LOVE these comics! This is very sweet. I’m sad to hear this about Sunny, but at least she is being looked after by humans who love her & keep her safe. <3

Cooking for the week ahead is a damnably efficient idea. Maybe one day I will ascend to those heights of adulthood?

This is so important.

I really want to support Wild Side West more often. I just wish they were a little closer to public transit.

The letters of LGBTQ should be separated. This “community” has no respect for Lesbians.
Q is meaningless, and therefore allows straight people in. Bs complain of “biphobia” from Gs and Ls when it is pointed out that they have a privilege over Gs and Ls when they date someone of the opposite sex (not that they don’t have issues, but theirs are not the same as Gs and Ls). They keep adding more letters all the time, and most people don’t even know what they mean, even within the “community”. What a shithole.
We should have our own community of Lesbians, separate from the “queer”. We should be proud of who we are: Lesbians.

I think this is a super interesting survey. I found it really interesting that most women didn’t find their perfect match on the internet, however it wasn’t that surprising. I also can relate to “not having a type.” It’s nice to know we are moving towards an era where we are so open to all different kinds of expression. I really like the premise of your blog, and I think it is very hard to find other quality lesbian/ LGBT content out there.

This is great! I love this comic. Nice brushstrokes.

I enjoy your comic a lot! Keep them coming!

Wow! Inspirational.

How’s Gracie?

Everlyn rocks! She is a brilliant story teller and there is always a lesson to be learned from her writing, mostly the ones that she has learned or is learning. She invites you to see something new from a different perspective whilst being engaging and drawing you in. I eagerly look forward to the next chapter!

You’re just in time to go from tropical paradise to winter wonderland. I’m really looking forward to comics about life in Wisconsin!

“most of us don’t have a lot of drama or tragedy going on”…oh my godess, yes. This!

Congrats on your recent move?

Love this comic! Happy New Year to you both!

People need to gather in affinity groups to grow strong. That includes lesbians. It isn’t about exclusion, it’s about our own cultural development. I think it is very sad that we are infighting about this.

ahahahaha

I live in the south and sometimes use a bike. I don’t even want to imagine trying to bike through a Wisconsin winter!

I wasn’t sure I’d watch this show but I think now I will. It sounds nice!

Yay! Spring!

Hello! I think the second part of the comic isn’t showing.

Also, I wanted to say thanks for these! They’re adorable and they give me so much hope. And congrats on your engagement!

Age: 25
Location: CA
This is awesome!

Thank you! Master of None – Cheers to Lena Waithe!

This is wonderful! <333 I'm happy for you both!

This was a real lift this morning. Thank you. I have been a proud out lesbian since 1972. The current denigration including verbal and physical violence toward lesbians needs to be stopped. Our visionary work which has grown out of our celebration of lesbian culture needs to continue. It is so good to read here from lesbians of all ages who respect what it means to be a lesbian.

Looks like fun. Too bad the LA LGBT center isn’t having their annual “an evening with women” event anymore

I was sad it wasn’t renewed.

However, watching it I was constantly nervous about how they would handle her character.

At least it had a fairly happy closure!

omg, “ghosting” stories. hahaha, love it.

LOVE ‘Amy being a huge lesbian’ – Yes!

Sorry to read and hear about how Lesbianism is erased, and Pride and DYKE march are insulted and taken over by queer and trans ideology. As a lesbian DYKE, I feel insulted, and my fight for rights and space for lesbians are met with hate also from mainstream feminism. But I think as a DYKE from the 1970-80 Women’s Lib Movement, we must reunite our lesbian movement.

Wow, just wow, Jen. What a beautiful brilliant brave story. You have lived a good life. You have been a pioneer. Lily Taylor in that movie was amazing. And in all her movies and TV. I had no knowledge of her sexual orientation. I guess for me it wasn’t something I would have known about at the time. Or Melissa or Tracey. Guess it all makes sense now, Your coffee shop is an amazing safe space in Oakland and I wish you continued success. I am so glad I got to meet you and hang out that day. You are a special kind of person. Your kindness and gentleness shine through ❤️

I help run a senior Lesbian group here in Miami at Lambda Living (JCC) free lunch third Wednesday’s of the month and awesome conversations. Some of us have known each other for close to 50 years.

I’m wondering why you didn’t use their real names. Wouldn’t they want to be known as out and proud?

As a 60 year old lesbian I am just starting to be old, and it’s good. Always been my ambition to be old, and I love this part of my life. Lesbian feminism made space for me to reject what I was taught growing up (that I’d be ‘a wife and and mother and…’).

I wish you and other young lesbians a good aging. Aging begins imperceptibly, it is part of life that takes over gradually. It’s an accumulation of self and history, and a knowledge that things can’t go back, but can be (sometimes) healed.

Perhaps film them talking about this and put it on YouTube?

yeah my experience of lgbt spaces has been similar. the L in particular gets forgotten about.

This is a breath of fresh air. As a 21 year old lesbian, I cannot even bring myself to approach this topic seriously yet with my friends. Some I’ve mentioned it to have averted the topic. It’s so isolating to belong to a community that doesn’t see you as you are; as you fought to be. I long to meet other lesbians who think like I do. Hold strong, everyone. There are still some of us younger lesbians who see the wrongs against us.

It.Was.Awesome!!!!!!!!!

Nice moviw.

Poussey deserved better her life was short and yes they did kill a african american who was a lesbian very unfair writing on the shows part but over all I will continue to watch the show and im very upset about the tragic death that was Poussey by a untrained mediocre guard.

Ashley,

You nailed it!
The mainstream message is that lesbian relationships aren’t real. Any romantic connection between lesbians is assumed to be a mere sexual appetizer for sex with a dude.

The worst is when straight women allow themselves to be used by their men as ‘bait’ , to try to con lesbians into their bed.

I’m a lesbian, so I don’t sleep with men – even if there’s another woman in the bed too.
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THIS IS SO TRUE. “i’ve experimented, of course” is like the straight girl version of “no homo”, and it’s said almost compulsively by them to us lmao

You should seriously write a book collecting their stories! I know I’d buy it.

Yes, BMG (Big Mouth Girl) fest was amazing!!!??

Wow! Great research Ashley!

Highly recommend MFR!!

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hahahah ty for this

Love your blog!! Wotta lotta fun! I must turn you on to Lesbian Connection. It’s got THE list, and please get a hard copy, ok? I tried the digital version & it ain’t the same. They’ve been around for DECADES, hon. From Ambitious Amazons in Michigan If you cant find it, email & ask me. (& I’m including my site cuz maybe I’ll fix it!)

And, find your local lez comedian Dynasty Handbag, so you can guffaw some more!
Thanks for being awesome, LOE!

The Mystical Womxn’s Magic Fest on The Land in Michigan is an amazing event! August 11th–16th.

This was hilarious

Great article! So awesome to see my fellow lesbians living their best lives, out and proud.

“1/5 Correct answers!

You’ve had minimal exposure to hellsites. I envy you.”

Damn if only I could’ve gotten 0! Unfortunately I actually read that cosmo one because my friend and I used to make fun of the articles on there ?

“1/5 Correct answers!

You’ve had minimal exposure to hellsites. I envy you.”

Hahahaha…. hahahaa…. ha… I got the cosmo one right again… not because I had made fun of the article with my friend this time… but because it sounded exactly like the type of person who would write a cosmo article.

“4/5 Correct answers!

You’re in too deep. Go offline for a while.”

I was thinking exactly this as my answers were lighting up green each time…. oh goodness?

I love this and all the work you are doing!

Greetings to the younger generation… and allow me to add that it’s even harder to be a “modern lesbian” these days, as a much older Dyke. For a lot of us, being “cool” takes on a slightly different slant from being cool in the early 2000’s.
To start with, the words “lesbian” and “dyke” were used proudly and not frowned upon as politically incorrect, the butch/femme relationship was common, and the majority of us considered the word “queer” totally unacceptable.

Minus the internet, social media sites, and even the computer at one point, softball games, bar-b-que parties, and the lesbian bars were our only social outlets. This was much simpler- except for the times when the bars were raided by the cops trying to bust butches for dancing with our femmes.

Flip phones weren’t even an option back in the day – the adventure was in trying to find a telephone booth on the nearest street corner- I found this much simpler.

Subarus look nothing like they used to, and “real lesbians” drove trucks.

Being a member of the “Alphabet People” is not simple, and the acronym has been bastardized so much since I was a baby dyke, it’s crazy-making and wears me out.
The insistence by the masses to avoid labels, while using all kinds of labels to self-identify, is not simple. Before any of the labels, we were just… gay.

I’m one of the “crunchy, crusty dykes who dances naked in the words” on my piece of lesbian land, where only lesbians/womyn/girls have resided since 1973, and the coolest things around are the breezes that come floating through the trees on a hot summer day. It is the place where I am gender-less and no one questions my abhorrence at being asked about my pronoun usage- a much simpler way to be in the world.

If there are any womyn out there who want to “find their answer dancing naked in the woods”, and actually spend some time on lesbian land, we are offering a place to visit, where life is much simpler in many ways. You are welcome to join us, camp with us, and find some peace.
Email me- cabbagecanyon@gmail.com

“You keep taking Gender Studies even though the only person you’re hurting is yourself.” It’s like you called me out my name! Honestly, sites like this are the only haven for lesbians like me.

I’m in my mid-20s and all I want in life is to enjoy a community of women who ONLY love women. Unfortunately, that desire is now considered a sin in the acronym community.

At least I found this website, please never stop posting. <3

1/5, I guess that’s a good thing? These were all atrociously hilarious…

Thanks for sharing your experiences! This was a great read!

Omg the IBS one whyyyyy

Aw, this is such a warm fuzzy post to read. Dedicated lesbian space really is like this.

You captured this weekend so well! Brought back all the warm memories for me. <3

Let’s do a LOE retreat in Tampa with the baes #pride2022

I’m glad you’re reviewing this. I had an unexpected good time with this show as the season progressed

Love love love this! Always wonderful to read about everyday lives of lesbians <3

This is amazing content

Sounds like such a great time and those workshops look really fun too! I’m glad this year was a success and I hope to join y’all in 2024!

Thank you so much for this write- up! This is Alison, the founder of Cherry Bomb Weho. It was great to meet you and I look forward to seeing y’all again soon! ❤️

“Threatening Girls Magazine” Brilliant!
You’d be interested also in Callisto, one of Xena the Warrior Princess’ villains

A hilarious read lmao, luckily never had any “ghost hauntings” happening to me!

While Carrie is correctly in the #1 spot, I take issue with all the other rankings!! Finley is GROWING and taking ACCOUNTABILITY for her actions, which is something none of the other characters are doing!! Dani straight up ran a Big Pharma corporation and hasn’t once seemed to grapple with the moral implications of that whatsoever! And Sophie hasn’t done anything worse than any of the OGs!! To rank her and Finley below Tina is CRIMINAL

A character that pees on her girlfriend’s ex-girlfriend hallway has to be ranked the worst

1 out of 5 isn’t bad!

I’m a very happy long-term polyamorous lesbian. I would love to be studied!

Thank you for this beautiful view into your lesbian-magickal world. ⚢

Do you have an email list or just social media?

Great piece of writing on the butch experience. I’m an early forties butch and there are few places where I receive any respect at all. I’m very much a woman. Yes, stared at and categorized as less than. The patriarchal society is brainwashed and has their blinders on, sadly.

🌟 Celebrating Lesbian Visibility Day with these incredible stories! 💪 Danni’s knack for problem-solving and Molly’s journey of self-discovery are both inspiring. Here’s to living authentically and embracing who we are! 💖✨ #LesbianVisibilityDay #Pride

Thank you for this. I am happy to read someone who is like me. It is good to know I am not alone.

Hey I’m doing an anthology that revolves around the aging female body. I would love to re-print this. If you’re interested please get in touch.

I loved how Teresa and Anabelle balanced each other out on the show. Their chemistry really shines through, making the whole experience enjoyable!